Hi yall, just want to thank everyone for all of the support and love you have shown here the last few days while the trolls have been out. The e-mails, tweets and call's are amazing !! You are the best !

The uninformed however, seem to be breeding each other as they continue to spew vitriol and make ridiculous accusations and incorrect judgement's.

It amazes me that people who have no idea what happened in this house, how we lived our daily lives or just what constitutes an all-encompassing loving and trusting relationship can be so quick to judge and throw their two cents in when it was not needed nor asked for.

These same people who were not around for the last 6 years unless something was beneficial to them smell the scent of money and "poof" here they are...they're like piranhas.

Case in point,  Greg once had a "friend" that had (has) excessive problems with alcohol and DUI charges. This "friend" was turned in by his own girlfriend when she called the police after sending him out drunk to get food, and he received a Felony DUI, spent time in prison, was on probation, and has to blow into a machine on his car before he can drive it.

Greg and I stood by this "friend" throughout his ordeal , writing him letters several times a week, putting money in his jail account, having him down to our home several times after he was free, and making sure that we checked in on him when we were up north. We even provided him with housewares when he was finally released and got his own place. This "friend" was still having problems with alcohol up until the time of Greg's death.

This "friend" text messaged me today, saying he had been reading my blog and how disgusted he was and how Greg would be too. He also stated that Greg's kids were here longer than me. Well no kidding. Guess that's why Greg and I set up a trust and a college fund for his son once we started seeing each other, and how a fund was established for his daughter too. Gee, how selfish of me. Guess that's why I took both kids on vacation and gave them money, spoiled them at Christmas, took them to my family's home where they were taken in and treated royally, made sure they always had nice clothes and were clean and well-fed, provided health insurance via my employer for the youngest, gave both of them laptops and digital camera's, coached one's sports teams, went with his daughter to get piercings, buy clothes, groceries, co-pays on insurance, birth control, etc. I guess things would have been better if I had ignored them, spent all of our money on us and not even acknowledged either of them.

But I wasn't raised that way. Unfortunately, this "friend" and the other person protesting the will were allegedly brought up in a violent and unloving home, so maybe the idea of someone reaching out to children that may not be biologically theirs but are theirs in HEART AND MIND may be foreign to them.

See, unlike some people, I never cared about money. I don't need it, I have my own, as does my family.

When I looked at Gregory I did not see $ signs, I saw love. I never even knew what he made until I moved up here two and a half years after we began seeing each other. And I didn't care. If he had dug ditches or owned a bank, the love was the same. And that will never change.

I'm sorry so many people are motivated by greed, jealousy and just pure pettiness that they can't see that.

But Gregory did. He knew he was loved, for all of the right reasons. And because I know that he knew, and that the same love was given to me in return, I will forever be richer than any dollar can make me. And the happiness and peace that gives me can never be taken away, even by piranha's.


Sassy said...

This made me tear up. I'm sorry that some ignorant, petty and jealous people are trying to make what you had seem shallow and not real. YOU know what you had, and those who know and love you know the truth, and those who are close-minded and rude cannot take that away from you no matter what hatred or garbage spews from their mouths and hearts (well, their stone-cold hearts, apparently). ((Hugs to you)).

Robin said...

Amen Sistah! I am so sorry you are having to go throught! My thoughts, prayers and good vibes are still with you!!


Robin :o)

Anonymous said...

It's amazing how something so horrible, shared by those who love each other, can bring out the worst and tear them apart. I'm so sorry for all this, I told you that on the phone, and I really REALLY wish I could change things for you. I believe everything will work out for you, and I believe Karma will kick some ass, and I hope you're close enough to see that while still being far enough away to not be colateral damage.

We need to plan a get together. Just wanna plant that seed in the brain. Think on it.



TexasRaceLady said...

Kim, the roaches always come out of the woodwork when they think "food" is to be had.

They will scurry away when the lights come on, back into their little holes.

Your friends know the truth. That's all that matters.

HEATHER said...

Kim, I am praying for you every night. Hold on to the Lord, he knows the truth and will pull you through this.
I am going to suggest that you turn off your comments or moderate them while this is going on. That is the only way to put a stop to the vitriol.
God bless honey!

LOVIN7 said...

((BIG HUGS)) Cozzie-we got your back girl!!

Big Pissy said...

I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

You don't deserve this.

I know you're strong and you'll get through this, but it still sucks majorly.

Anonymous said...


Sorry you are having to go through all of this. I just want you to know that I am thinking of you.


Momma in MT said...

Kim, I had to comment. In every post I have ever read of yours, your love, your passion, and your pain resounds clearly, and eloquently. You have shown Grace, courage, and understanding in a time where MANY would have fallen to peices.
I am truely sorry that the uninformed are trying their damndest to soil what was (to a bystander by blog) a loving, caring, and very nurturing and RIGHT relationship. I can only hope to have as solid a relationship when I "grow up" as you found with your G!
I will keep you and the outcome in my thoughts and prayers! Good luck!

sybil law said...

It is astounding what greed does to people. Sickening, too.
I have to stop before I go off on a full tirade.
Know that some of us can see hateful people for what they are, and know that we can also see someone loving like yourself.

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Bubblewench said...

Sometimes I truly wonder what people are thinking. It makes me sad.

You know I love you and am here for you and I'm glad you know that no matter what the love you & Greg had will always be there.

Damn. I'm even sadder I never knew him then I was before. Thankfully, you will always tell me about him and I will get to know him better through you.

BeautifulWreck said...

I am very sorry Kim.